I've seen it so many times. That longing look when she watches him walk away, or the look of devastation on his face if she is talking to another man. I've seen that look on the faces of friends, and I've seen it in the mirror, so I know it well.
The invisible relationship, the one that plays out in the mind instead of real life is dangerous. I think it is the most dangerous relationship, because you invent things about a person that most likely will not translate to real life. Then the disappointment sets in, once you realize they aren't who you think they are.
I did that when I was a teenager.. First 'love,' but the better word is crush. We sent tapes (yes, cassette tapes) back and forth and wrote letters- real ones, not email. Then, I saw him with another girl and it broke my heart. I still imagined something between us, but knew it could never be. Part of me today thinks if he ever came back into my life... Maybe.. But then my head gets screwed back on straight and I look reality in the face and go on with my life, reminding myself that it is HE who missed out, not me. I'm the one he passed up, and the one he will forever wonder about.
That is a thought process that can be applied to any situation. It doesn't mean I think I'm better than any other woman, it just means I don't dwell on the "why didn't he want me??" thought of self-pity. I do know there is someone just right out there that God has deemed worthy of me, and one day He will bring us together. For now though, I choose to keep my mind locked into where it needs to be, not where it wants to wander.
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