Rooted and Grounded

I found an interesting article this morning about nice guys finishing last. Like the author, I do not understand why nice guys say they finish last. I do get what she is saying about women wanting excitement and someone who is not a doormat (because really, while getting your way ALL the time can be fun, it does get old after awhile).

I think there are nice guys out there who tend to pick women that are attractive, but shallow or are looking for some kind of ‘sugar daddy’ or crutch to get them through the current chapter of their life. Or just someone to support them.

I’ve always been really independent, and never wanted to rely on someone else for anything. I’ve had friends actually get on to me about it because I was reluctant to accept their help. I’m still reluctant, but when I know there is nothing else I can possibly do, I give in. I always manage to figure out a way around, but usually, God does something amazing. J I always like that better.

The nice guy – one of the things the author in this article talks about is nice guys focusing SO much on being nice that they do not appear confident or do not set boundaries, and women are unable to respect the man who is a doormat.

Ladies – you know this! I couldn’t respect a man – long term – if he were a doormat.

My place is not as the leader of the home, it is as the helper. God gave each of us, men and women, different strengths and weaknesses to complement each other and hold each other up and accountable as well. Men and women were made to love each other and respect each other, mutually. Neither was meant to be a doormat or treated as a lesser person in the relationship.

God sees all and can do all. I had a stressful stretch of time this morning and am thankful for friends who listen and offer sound advice and for those who pray for me without me even having to ask. Below is a verse that sums up (to me) what relationships with each other and with God should be.

Do not be a doormat. Treat each other with respect and kindness.

Ephesians 3:16-21 (NASB)

¹⁶ that He would grant you, according to the riches of His glory, to be strengthened with power through His Spirit in the inner man, ¹⁷ so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith; and that you, being rooted and grounded in love, ¹⁸ may be able to comprehend with all the saints what is the breadth and length and height and depth, ¹⁹ and to know the love of Christ which surpasses knowledge, that you may be filled up to all the fullness of God.
²⁰ Now to Him who is able to do far more abundantly beyond all that we ask or think, according to the power that works within us, ²¹ to Him be the glory in the church and in Christ Jesus to all generations forever and ever. Amen.