What Do You Bring?

I was told the other day that I was intimidating (yes, again!!!) because of the thought I have put into dating (whew! At least it isn't because of my personality this time!)

So, for anyone reading out there, I do not want to give the impression that I have all of the answers, nor do I want to mislead anyone into thinking life will be perfect when in a relationship. It is a lot harder than anyone expects and a real relationship takes work.

For example: I reconnected with a friend who had recently gotten married. He told me it was really hard, a lot harder than he thought it would be. Granted, I did not pry, nor do I know all of the details, but I can't imagine it would be so difficult six months in if the person is the one God intended for you. I'm not questioning his choices either, but that's just the way I see it.

Sometimes God puts people in our lives to show us things we would never have known about ourselves unless they were there. These can be good or bad things. We can be shown something we never would have thought about doing. We can get guidance or a clearer direction because of how these people look at things vs our stale way of seeing it.

I often find it interesting to see what a person will bring to my life, or what I would bring to theirs. Sometimes I wonder if that person will stick around for any length of time, or if they will bring something meaningful into my life. There are times neither happens, and that is okay too.

The few people God has brought into my life this year have each taught me something about myself, and I am grateful for those lessons. One or two was pretty tough, but honestly, that is the only way we grow, right?

One lesson was a couple of days ago. I am a romantic at heart, and truly believe I will have my own version of a fairy tale ending someday. A few days ago I was talking to someone and my attitude was pretty sour, which meant my outlook was completely different than the day before. So, he called me on it (pretty cool, if you ask me. Not too many do that) and wanted to know where the optimistic girl was from the day before. Made me realized I was a little crabby, but also made me realize how down I was getting myself because of my attitude.

I went to a camp when I was a teen and one of the things I always remember from that is this:

 

And it is so very true. And a quote from one of the biggest dreamers ever.