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Wednesday, April 16, 2014

Separation




How do you separate the way that God loves us from the way that people love us?

It is difficult.

God hates our sin, but He LOVES us.  He gave His only Son to die so that we could be with him for eternity.

Jesus was the bridge that connected our sinful selves to the Holiness of God.

God LOVES us.

People love us when we do things for them. Or when we are nice to them. Or when we appear perfect and always seem to do the right things. If we are popular. Rich. Attractive.

When we mess up, many friends disappear. Or gossip about us. Or just turn their backs. People judge us unfairly.

It is personally hard for me to reconcile how God loves me, and then separate that from how people love me. Even family. Sometimes family, the people who are supposed to love you the most, are the worst offenders.

I remember being judged so much after I left for the military. I'm not really sure what I did to start the process, and I know I made mistakes, but I just never really knew what started it. I have my suspicions, but will probably never know on this side of heaven.

I recall the first time I noticed it happening. I had found out I has gotten orders to England, and was so very excited! I was going home to visit and told my family I had exciting news to share when I got home. When I was picked up in Atlanta, I was told (demanded) that I needed to spill my exciting news. I said I wanted to tell everyone at once, and then I was asked me "are you pregnant?" I was crushed. It still hurts to this day, to know my worth in that moment.

I think it is so difficult for all of us to separate our actions from the way God sees us. I struggle to be the person I am on a day to day basis when I am around my family, because I feel like they only see my actions and define me in that manner. But I am NOT that person when I am at home in Colorado.

I am a confident, don’t take any crap from anyone, business owner, amazing, single mom!  I have a Master’s degree, and I graduated with Honors. I worked my tail off for that degree! I am a full-time employee and I am valued at work. I have friends who care about me and don’t judge me based on my actions.

On the way in to work this morning, I was listening to Wally (Way FM morning show) read an email from a lady who had a divorced female friend, and the friend had an unrepentant heart with regards to her actions that led to the divorce. A caller made some comments and then Wally said something to the effect of; “God doesn’t see our sins, He sees us as white and clean as snow, washed by the Blood of the Lamb. He doesn’t see our lies, our adultery, our theft. He sees none of that.”

I have to work through that in my mind and forgive, then forget about the stuff held against me. Even if anyone still holds it against me, I’m forgiven by the One who truly matters. And those people have to deal with the stuff in their heart - the unforgiveness, the grudges and everything else. Not me.

With this Easter season approaching, remember the sacrifice of Jesus for us, and reconcile THAT love within yourself and stop thinking the way that people love you is the way the God loves you.

















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