Sometimes I feel like I’m on a soapbox about things, but
what I want to know is… what topics would you like to see me write about? Of
course, they must revolve around dating, preferably as a Christian, but I feel
pretty confident I can tackle a secular dating subject as well.
What sort of things interest you?
What difficulties have you had in dating?
How many different websites have you tried? What success
have you had?
Do you think your standards are too strict? Or not strict
enough?
Single Parents? I want to hear from you too!
I want to hear from you! If you are across the world, I want
to hear your experiences! You could be right down the street from me and I
still want to know J
I read an article last week on why men pull away from women.
I realized I’m guilty of the things (according to this article) that make men
pull away, and one in particular. The point was something to the effect of “men
don’t want a woman who gives more
love than they do.” In my understanding, men want to feel like they can protect
more or give more than the woman does, and if that turns around on them, they
disappear. This includes bringing them lunch, cooking or whatever.
Guys, is this accurate? I would love to know.
See, I love to cook, and I love to cook for the people I
care about, but this article says I should not do this because it scares men
off. This premise contradicts what I grew up with, which is “the way to a man’s
heart is through his stomach.” I know
things change, and there are other things that happen in relationships that
scare people away, but I can’t cook for someone?????? That totally stinks.
Men – does it scare you when women do something nice for
you? Inquiring minds want to know!
I can definitely say my husband isn't offended by my cooking for him. We are pretty set in our roles and that makes us a good match I guess some guys might be put off with that, it would depend on personality type. Just like some women love to have car doors opened for them and some women feel like it is humiliating or that she is capable of doing it for herself. In our relationship we assume what some would call old fashioned roles. I consider myself fortunate to get to stay at home, do the majority of child rearing, money management, housework, etc. While my husband is the provider for our family. I know some women who would never give up their careers to stay at home. I really think the key is knowing what type of family structure you want and finding a like minded individual. Some families are the exact reverse of ours and that is what works for them. The same applies to most every aspect of a relationship. If you aren't the touchy feely type, you wouldn't want a clingy needy person hanging on you all the time. I don't think this means you are trying to find your clone. I feel like each having their own interests in different things enhances the relationship. My husband hunts, I have no interest in going, but I enjoy helping him process the meat when he gets home and hearing about it. I have my own interests and hobbies and listens to me talk about them and we learn a lot from each other. We both enjoy camping, fishing, and gardening. There is a happy medium to spending time together and not feeling like you have to be together every minute. Being a single, working mother before I remarried, I found that many men felt like I needed to be rescued. That wasn't the case at all. I wanted a partner. I have God, I didn't need another savior. Some men, I think it scared that I could manage fine on my own and it made them feel kind of un-needed. I think my husband now feels at peace knowing that if something happened to him I could still manage on my own. I would have to go back to work, but I have the education and experience to provide for us if I need to.
ReplyDeleteI guess what it all boils down to is actually knowing what you want and finding a good match. If some call it being picky or high standards so be it. You invest a lot of time and of yourself into a relationship and you should never settle. No one will be perfect in every single aspect. There will be disagreements and arguments, but at the end of the day you are always thankful for that person and can go to sleep knowing you are a good team. Sorry I rambled on so long. Lol