No One is Perfect

I had an interesting experience yesterday which only validated my thoughts on how some men today view women...actually, how they treat women.

I’m eating lunch at my desk and one of the guys who works in my area comes up and says “where are we going for lunch?” (I’ve never had lunch with this guy). I looked at him, looked at my lunch and said “I’m eating right here.”

He replies (wait for it) “That’s no way to respond when someone asks you to lunch!”

Astounded, I sat there and looked at him. I let him know that he did not, in fact, ask me to lunch. He asked where we were going for lunch (in my mind, making the assumption that I was having lunch with him…because he is SO appealing????)

He decided he needed to argue with me, telling me he did ask me to lunch and that’s the way he does it.

So THIS is why he is still single… learn how to speak properly to a woman, buddy, and maybe you will get someone to go out with you.

Another guy that I know doesn’t know how to be just a friend to a woman. He has made some comments to me that are inappropriate and show just how high a regard he holds himself in. I’m sure he is a great guy, but I honestly do not want to spend any time finding out because he is so obnoxious.

Let this be a warning to you guys – the kind of woman you would like to be involved with will expect you to treat them properly. Open doors, pull her chair out, pay attention to what she is saying, do not make inappropriate comments/jokes, PUT AWAY THE SMARTPHONE!!!! 

There are a lot of people out there who do not expect to be treated properly because they never have been treated properly. Some women think they need to ‘fix’ the man they end up with, as if he is broken. Some men think they need to be ‘king’ of their world and whatever woman they deem worthy should wait on him hand and foot.

Both of these thought patterns are straight out wrong. The Bible does not advocate for treating people in a manner that places them lower than you. If you think someone needs to be ‘fixed’ and you are the only one who can do it, then you are placing yourself in a position that elevates you – it is pride that has this attitude, not love. If you think someone is put on earth to serve you and cater to your every need – again, pride is the source of this.

We are supposed to love each other. I don’t mean be “in love” with everyone who crosses your path, but to love people like God loves us. This kind of love is shown in how you respond to daily living and the things that are thrown into your path. It is not about what love is, but what love does and does not do (see 1 Cor. 13:1-7 and Cooper Abrams link listed below).

Guys - treat the women in your life with respect, even if you aren't married to them. This will go a long way in how you are viewed.

Ladies, you have to treat men with respect. They are not typically broken, even if they do have some rusty spots. (worry about those when you are in a committed relationship).

John 13:34 (NASB)

³⁴ A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another, even as I have loved you, that you also love one another.

1 Peter 4:8-9 (NASB)

⁸ Above all, keep fervent in your love for one another, because love covers a multitude of sins. ⁹ Be hospitable to one another without complaint.

Cooper Abrams. True Biblical Love in Action. http://bible-truth.org/msg108.html