What to Do?

I have recently encountered a couple of, how to say this… negative people. Well, men. One who seems to take it personally that I will not be more than a friend with him, even though I have made it quite clear. The other seems to believe he can do no wrong, and has a problem following rules of common courtesy. Not to mention my history with the second individual, who also cannot take responsibility for his actions.

Men and women alike – if someone is not interested in you, do not make a nuisance of yourself. If you run in the same social circles, be civil. If the person you are interested in is present, be NICE! Making fun of, alluding to a different type of relationship, snide  remarks, talking about that person behind their back – those behaviors will not endear you to anyone, and actually make you look quite foolish and immature.

Common courtesy – if you do not know someone well enough, do not call past 9 PM, even on a weekend. If you do know them and have no idea what they are doing, it is always best to text that person to see if they are available to chat. I’ve always told certain friends they are welcome to call me  in an emergency at any time. They know this. Calling to ‘chat’ at nearly 10 PM when I barely know a person seems more like a phone call with an end purpose. Here is a snippet of that conversation (happened a couple of days ago):

9:56 PM (Call is blocked, but I’m expecting work to call me, so it could legit)

Me: Hello

Male: (silence) Hi…

Me: Who is this?

Male: This is ________ ________

Me: Do you realize it is nearly 10 PM? (People, I was raised in the south. Any call between 9 PM and 7 AM means someone probably died)

Male: And you are still awake.

Me: What?

Basically, he was rude, belligerent (kinda normal for this guy’s personality) and I think, sounded drunk. I’m not sure on that though, and could be wrong. Hope I’m wrong. He did ask if he could call again, but folks, you just gotta draw a line in the sand sometimes. Even when you don’t want to be rude to someone, there are times you have to be.

Some people do not understand boundaries, and as such, these people need to be led to the trough and spoon fed when it comes to courtesy and how to treat people. My experiences with this one person have led me to believe he is one of those who cannot accept responsibility for his actions, blames others for situations he gets himself into by making assumptions or having some kind of ‘stalker’ mentality.

Anyway, it is never good to get labeled by others for personality flaws that could be avoided if you weren’t so stubborn as to believe you are always right.

I don’t like hearing about my personality flaws, but when someone knows you well enough, and they point them out in love, it is not intended to be a beat down.

The point is, listen to the people who care about you. If they see something and are brave enough to bring it to your attention, don’t get mad - listen to them. You may actually see a way to improve yourself. Even if it hurts.

Isaiah 43:1-3 (NASB)

43 But now, thus says the Lord, your Creator, O Jacob,
And He who formed you, O Israel,
“Do not fear, for I have redeemed you;
I have called you by name; you are Mine!
² “When you pass through the waters, I will be with you;
And through the rivers, they will not overflow you.
When you walk through the fire, you will not be scorched,
Nor will the flame burn you.
³ “For I am the Lord your God,
The Holy One of Israel, your Savior;
I have given Egypt as your ransom,
Cush and Seba in your place.