Fed-Up in Colorado

I think, if you have read any of my previous blogs, you may realize I don’t tolerate much misbehavior from men. Especially when it comes to playing games with women – specifically, with me.  In my opinion, this kind of behavior is unacceptable even with men who are just friends… and quite honestly, when they claim the name of Christ, this shouldn’t even be a problem, but it seems to be.

I’ve dealt with this previously with an individual (professed Christian) who was interested in me and then he decided to get ugly when I made it clear I did not return the sentiment. He would make fun of me – and get ugly and personal with it – to the point that others were noticing and wondering why he was acting in that manner. My attention span and patience with someone who behaves in this way is pretty short. There most likely is not a second chance because of this type of behavior and an obvious immaturity.

I got an email yesterday from eharmony telling me that someone wanted to get to know me – you know, those questions that you are supposed to answer??  I found it interesting because I haven’t had an active profile on that website for almost a year now and I realized they wanted me to pay again to see this fake profile question thing. I didn’t fall for it. But, eharmony had this thing called must haves/can’t stands. I get that.. I really do. Be on time.. if you are running late because of traffic or something beyond your control, have the common courtesy to let me know. You know, there are some can’t stands I have newly discovered that really just drive me bonkers.

I don’t understand this behavior: why do men talk about other women they are talking to when they are with someone they are supposedly interested in??? The individual I was writing about above did this a lot. Now, I wasn’t interested in him a bit, but imagine this – say I am interested in getting to know someone better, but all he does is talk about all of these other women he is talking to. Now, imagine him complaining about them. This makes me think several things. 1) He isn’t interested in me at all, so definitely do not need to pursue this any further. 2) What is he going to say about me to someone else? 3) How annoying (why the heck am I wasting my time??).

The one thing that I cannot tolerate, outside of the lack of faith (or not living as one should when professing faith) is the mean factor. There is no reason whatsoever to be mean to another person because your feelings have been hurt or you aren’t getting enough attention or whatever the reasoning is. Taking out your insecurities on another person doesn’t make you look like a better person; it makes you look small and immature. I couldn’t quite understand why this happened, until I reflected. It really does have more to do with the person doing the ‘making fun’ than the one they are making fun of or being ugly to. Do you not understand these words hurt?? This really goes for anyone. If you say hurtful things to someone, it is going to hurt them. If you want these people in your life, you probably shouldn’t make fun of them. I joke and tease, but I don’t make it personal.

I have a friend that I give a hard time to –ALL OF THE TIME –because he NEVER answers a text. It drives me crazy. He’s well aware of it. He is also not very tech savvy, and very easily distracted (squirrel!), so my teasing is kept to a minimum because I know him well enough. On the other side of that, I think it is highly rude to ignore someone, whether in person, text or social media, on purpose.  A refusal to acknowledge a person when they say something to you is similar to a slap in the face. It has become apparent to me that I have inadvertently offended someone, because I sent a message that was ignored. Then when I did ask about another subject, I was given the cold shoulder. I think people should be a little more honest… if you have been offended, you should say something rather than stew in silence and treat the person like they now have leprosy. It is kind of crappy to do that. The other side of that coin is that if you don’t want to say anything to them about what they did, and then stop acting like a sullen child about whatever happened and let it go.

I get fed up kind of easily about relationship type things these days. It is easy to get frustrated, when you have men playing games or not being interested or being overly interested to the creepy point. I suppose I’m just super irritated at this point with the opposite gender and the apparent inability to be a proper human being.