Give Them (clueless men) a Hand

Give them a hand

I had a few questions come up from the last blog, so I thought I would answer those here, so if anyone else was curious, they could also get my take on these things.

I firmly believe a man should chase after a woman. I would never go out with a man who is too lazy to show me he is interested, or the man who refuses to chase a woman because he thinks he should be the one chased. Nope, sorry, not going to happen.

THAT being said… there is nothing wrong with letting a man know you are interested, you know? I mean, let’s face it, most men are pretty clueless when it comes to women.  :)   Ladies, you can do this by showing interest in what he is saying –even if you don’t understand it, are not interested, or bored to tears. Ask him questions, flirt some. Sometimes, with some men, you just have to put yourself out there and say something about your level of interest. However, DO NOT play games with a guy. If he asks you out, say yes or no. It’s okay to check the calendar or tell him you must see if you can find a sitter first before committing, but don’t say no, then be mad at him if he doesn’t ask again. Toying with emotions is not fair to anyone. (Guys.. you should take note of that too..Don’t play games with women. Be interested, or not, but don’t lead a woman on).

Guys, if you are interested, ask her out. Take the chance. You will never know if she is interested unless you ask. Guys - if she tells you she has an interest in you but you do not reciprocate the feelings, be nice about it.

Men and women are a terrific team together, IF they are following God’s plan for their lives. By this, I mean men and women both should first commit to a relationship with God. If they can’t have that relationship, then how will they manage to be in one with each other? I heard a saying once, and I love it.

A woman’s heart should be so hidden in God that a man must seek Him to find her

This is utterly and completely the truth, especially for a Believer. There should be no missionary dating, nor should there be failure to follow God when dating another Christian. It should be easy. I was seeing someone a few years ago who played with my emotions, kept me guessing and thought I should chase after him before he just quit calling. When I saw him earlier this year, I asked what happened, and he said he thought if I wanted to talk to him, I would have called him. Really… maturity is the key here, guys. If you aren’t mature enough to be in a relationship, then don’t be in one. Don’t try to be in one. Just be by yourself and grow up.

One thing I firmly believe is that sex before marriage is not right, especially in God’s eyes. We all make mistakes, we all do stupid things, so I am not condemning anyone… geez.. I would have those four fingers pointing right back at me. The question comes out of the desire to beat the sinful nature into submission, thereby following God’s will for our lives. When a man and a woman are in a relationship that will lead to marriage (and yes, I believe marriage is between a man and a woman, nothing more, nothing less), they should make every effort to keep God first, and control their sinful nature. If it comes to it, they would have to make the decision to not be alone together (if they find they cannot control themselves-hormonal teenagers, anyone??). They would also need to set firm boundaries for both the man and the woman, for each has a threshold that, if crossed, would create a problem for both parties in the relationship.

Does anyone else have thoughts on these things?