I've come to the realization that men have forgotten something vital in this world we live in. Men have forgotten how to date... At least, the men I've met. They think texting and emails are an okay form of communication, they don't actually ASK a woman out, they run away when a woman expressed her feelings, or they are inappropriately wrong right away. So yes, guys, I'm going to pick on you (don't worry, the next blog is about women).
I think the problem lies in this whole ridiculous women's movement that started in the 70's. Men have been emasculated, and that is wrong (I won't get into the political stuff, but I do believe there are some good parts to women's lib). I think many men are intimidated by women, especially the one they are interested in. Go on guy... ASK HER OUT!!! I cannot express how annoying it is that a 'man' can't man up and show he is interested in someone. They are afraid of commitment or have been hurt or whatever the reason is.
My opinion is that the man is supposed to take the lead. God demands it! Ephesians says the “husband is the head of the wife, as Christ is the head of the church.” I know, it says husband and wife.. However, this tells me that, as women, we are not made to chase after men. I know there are things out there in the world that say “go after what you want” and all of these movies, television shows and magazines say to chase after anything you see because you deserve it and all that mess. God says He will give us good things, but they come in HIS time, not ours. You can’t force a relationship to work, nor can you make someone love you. What I’m saying is, ladies, stop trying to make a man love/want you. Dress and behave appropriately, and it will come in God’s time.
I think the problem lies in this whole ridiculous women's movement that started in the 70's. Men have been emasculated, and that is wrong (I won't get into the political stuff, but I do believe there are some good parts to women's lib). I think many men are intimidated by women, especially the one they are interested in. Go on guy... ASK HER OUT!!! I cannot express how annoying it is that a 'man' can't man up and show he is interested in someone. They are afraid of commitment or have been hurt or whatever the reason is.
My opinion is that the man is supposed to take the lead. God demands it! Ephesians says the “husband is the head of the wife, as Christ is the head of the church.” I know, it says husband and wife.. However, this tells me that, as women, we are not made to chase after men. I know there are things out there in the world that say “go after what you want” and all of these movies, television shows and magazines say to chase after anything you see because you deserve it and all that mess. God says He will give us good things, but they come in HIS time, not ours. You can’t force a relationship to work, nor can you make someone love you. What I’m saying is, ladies, stop trying to make a man love/want you. Dress and behave appropriately, and it will come in God’s time.
My opinion is that I deserve to be chased! I am a Princess - and no, not the high maintenance image that just popped in your head. I am a Daughter of the King, and the man that eventually wins my heart has to go through my Father to get to me. I’m not about getting my heart broken over some guy who can’t or won’t commit. I deserve more than that, and have no desire to just date whatever guy enters my life to see if he’s the one God has for me. That doesn’t mean I won’t get to know him. I just won’t commit to a relationship with him unless I know God has intended him for me.
Some of my rules an interested guy should know (these may apply to other ladies as well):
1. ASK me out. You’ll never know if I’m taken or interested if you don’t. (I would advise to not text or email and ask me out. I will say no on principle.)
2. PLEASE: Make an effort to get to know me and show me you can be my friend.
3. DO NOT communicate solely thorough electronic means. CALL and talk to me!!!!
4. Don’t ask me out and then offer to include my child. Yes, a nice gesture, but inappropriate.
5. Don’t have the expectation that I would introduce you or allow you to spend a significant amount of time with my child when I first start dating you. (I may not like you and don’t want my child to like someone who won’t be around).
6. Don’t expect that I would be physically involved with you, especially at first. (See #2).
7. Flowers are always a nice gesture.
If you can’t manage to show me some kind of effort, then why should I?
yes! agree 100%!
ReplyDeleteJust to add a guys perspective:
#4 - don't beat a guy up if he offers to include your kid. Just politely explain your expectations regarding this, and he'll respect your position.
#1 - yes! guys! just ask! its like ripping off a band-aid - just do it! and trust me, it gets easier the more you do it. to the gals - asking you out can actually be very scary - a lot of guys struggle with this. its like getting up in front of a room full of people to give a speech - and you're naked! just be patient while we work up the courage. :)