Happiness and Comfort

How do we find that perfect medium, the place where we are happy and fulfilled, without relying on another person for that fulfillment? I won’t lie.. it is difficult in the best times. So many things can derail us during our day that can take our focus off of where it should be. A friend recently told me she feels forgotten when it comes to God in her life. I’ve felt that way too. Honestly, I seem to feel that way more often than not. There are days when I wonder if He even knows I exist. The truth is, He DOES. And He loves me. And He wants the very best for me. See, if my relationship with Christ is lacking, then I am lacking. I think this is more on me than God, because I want what I want right now. I'm not willing to wait because I am an impatient human telling an Almighty God who transcends time and space that I WANT. IT. NOW. I think it is up to me to chase after that relationship with God, even though God will RUN to me, and He will take me in His open arms and tell me in the sweetest voice I’ve ever heard that HE. LOVES. ME. There is no denying this.

So, why can’t I just remember this when I’m low, or in the valley, or being attacked? Probably because my selfish human heart and mind are working against me and telling me I am all alone in this world. LIES!!! Those things are lies from the enemy! When I am feeling low, troubled, sad, alone.. I recall a verse (these are the times when memorization of Scripture is so very important!). The one I usually say over and over is:

James 1:2-4 (NASB)

² Consider it all joy, my brethren, when you encounter various trials, ³ knowing that the testing of your faith produces endurance. ⁴ And let endurance have its perfect result, so that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.

I fully believe that God will allow us to be tested, like Job. Not to see if we will turn our backs and denounce Him, but to grow our faith and our trust in Him to work all things for us. The “perfect and complete” in vs 4 is not talking about perfection. It is talking about maturity. I want to be there, with Him, able to withstand anything the enemy throws my way. The funny thing is, I know I can. See, satan has to flee when we speak the name of Jesus. So, why should I be afraid?

How does this work into dating? Well, if you are not happy being you, being alone with yourself, how can you expect to be happy with your spouse? Our goal should be the relationship with Christ. Maybe that’s why I’m not married. I’ve thought about this on many occasions when I have cried out to my God, asking “why am I still alone?”  Maybe I’m not where He would like me to be in my relationship with Him. I falter, I stumble and I fail, which I fully expect to do until I am face to face with my Jesus. Even then I will probably fail. Maybe I need to change some things in me before He brings my husband to me. Perhaps…

Isaiah 41:10 NASB

“‘Do not fear, for I am with you; Do not anxiously look about you, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, surely I will help you, Surely I will uphold you with My righteous right hand.’”