Last of the rules.. explained

 Good morning! After a pretty eventful Monday, I’m ready to settle in for the rest of the week. I made dinner last night, as well as some of my homemade salsa, which went down in history as the best ever. I’m not sure what I did differently, but it was just amazing!

I’ve decided to group my last few rules because they are relatively easy to explain. So, here goes…

5.      I won’t chase a guy either. I may do something to let him know I’m interested, but I refuse to chase. I don’t feel I should have to.

Proverbs 31:10-12 New American Standard Bible (NASB)

¹⁰ An excellent wife, who can find?
For her worth is far above jewels.
¹¹ The heart of her husband trusts in her,
And he will have no lack of gain.
¹² She does him good and not evil
All the days of her life.

      What does this mean in the context of “chasing a guy?” How can I be worthy of a Christian man if I am  throwing myself at every guy who crosses my path? I don’t think I can be. Vs 10 says my “worth is far above jewels” as an excellent wife.  Excellent is a pretty high standard to obtain, and then to maintain. Vs 11 says “the heart of my husband trusts in me.” Personally, I want him to be able to trust me RIGHT. NOW. Wherever he is, I want him to feel peace that I am not acting in a way that would bring disrespect to him and our future relationship. Vs 12 is vital. “All the days of her life.” ALL the days? What does that mean, exactly?  It means (for me) that I am doing good for my future husband right now. This very second, in my thoughts and my actions. I am doing HIM good. To show him respect and love. This isn’t so extraordinary for me, but it may sound completely alien to you. This is a choice I have made, to protect my fragile heart, to keep it for the one who earns the right to hold it. 

      6.  To me, age means nothing (to a point). I look for maturity, spiritual and otherwise. I can say I will not date over 10 years in either direction though… gets too young (maturity issues) or too old (tend to not be active enough) for me. 

     There is no Bible verse on this one.. only that I know I have to be open to a greater age range, rather than say I will only date someone who is 2 years older than me. Only God knows who I will marry, and I need to be open and accepting of who He brings me to. I am at a point in my life where I want security and stability. Someone who changes jobs with the rising of the sun or who is unemployed does not speak ‘security’ to me. I’m not trying to be shallow, but I prefer not having to provide for someone when I just meet them. Having unemployment fall on us after we are married is a completely different subject.  

      7.  Non-smoker (SO gross!)

       Well…. A no brainer. 

      8.  No illegal drugs or other illegal activities

      Another no brainer.

      9.      No psycho crazy people. (Yes, had one of these. Recently too)

    

      All I have to say is… they are out there. And they will find you. Yes, the crazy people will find you. I honestly wonder about this one, because the last couple of guys I have met have all been nuts in some form. It’s really strange. I think I am a psycho magnet. Pretty sure of it actually. Okay, so I’m not a psycho magnet, but I do tend to attract them easily. Maybe they see me as an easy target, until they get to know me. And realize I am most definitely not an easy target. 

    

      Have a great Tuesday!